Paul asked his friend, Philemon to forgive Onesimus. Even though Onesimus had wronged Philemon, Paul asked Philemon to forgive and receive Onesimus like a brother. (Philemon 1:8-20)
Teach kids to forgive. Ask them to write down how they were offended, insulted, or hurt on a piece of paper.
How did you feel when you were insulted or hurt? (Sad, mad, left out, etc.)
To forgive someone means that you will not try to get that person back for hurting you. It does NOT mean that he/she was right. (It is wrong to hurt others.) It does not mean that you aren’t sad or mad. It means that you are willing to let God help you let it go.
Ask your child to take the piece of paper (on which the offense is written), wad it up and throw it away.
(Because we have been forgiven by God, because unforgiveness hurts us, because God tells us to forgive, etc.)
We can forgive others and have closeness with them again when we are willing to forgive.
How Can We Solve This?
Help kids learn to see the good in one another and forgive. When kids have a spat with one another, ask them to stand on opposite sides of the room, facing each other. Set the timer for two minutes and ask one to share his side of the story while the other listens without interrupting. Set the timer again and allow the other one to share his side, without interrupting. Then ask, “How can we solve this?” Reach an agreement and decide to forgive.
Then ask each one to take a step toward the other and say one good thing about the other (something good about the other person or something he enjoys doing with the other) until they are face to face and can shake hands or embrace.
Brotherly love is about forgiving and letting the hurt go. (1 Peter 4:8)
Brothers (siblings/families) can sometimes get lax in the words said to one another. Call a family meeting and talk about what words are permitted and which aren’t.
“I don’t like what you are doing” might be permitted; “I hate you” is not.
Make sure that everyone contributes and decides on what is acceptable and what is not.
Give each person a roll of quarters (or dimes or nickels). Announce that every time they say unkind words, they must forfeit a quarter (coin). At the end of the week, the money they have left is theirs to keep or spend.